How to Recognize Abuse

Are you or someone you care about in an abusive relationship? Signs of domestic abuse are not only physical, they can be emotional, verbal and financial, too.

Red Flags in a Relationship

  • Quick involvement
  • Quick to anger
  • Extreme jealousy
  • Controlling behavior
  • Isolation
  • Blames others
  • No remorse for actions
  • Jekyll/Hyde personality
  • Threats of violence
  • Putting on pedestal
  • Blurred boundaries
  • Negative talk about past partners

Do You...

  • Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
  • Constantly make excuses for your partner’s behaviors?
  • Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
  • Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
  • Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?

Trust your instincts!

If you feel something is wrong, please get help now.

Pet Abuse

The family pet is one of comfort and companionship and also another victim of family violence.

Many people will delay leaving their abuser for fear of the safety of their pet.

They will use the family pet as a control device threatening to hurt or kill the pet in order to get what they want from the abused spouse.

Alternatives to Violence has resources available to you and your beloved animals to make sure everyone is safe. We have access to shelters and foster programs to help your pet escape abuse as well.

We are here for you.

For confidential help available 24/7, call
Alternatives to Violence at 970-699-5150 or text 970-669-5157.

Cycle of Abuse

Abuse is a cycle that repeats over and over again. This is what it could look like:

Power and Control
The Power and Control Wheel that was developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project.